unique_ptr is thread safe when used correctly. You broke the unwritten rule: Thou shalt never pass unique_ptr between threads by reference.
The philosophy behind unique_ptr is that it has a single (unique) owner at all times. Because of that, you can always pass it safely between threads without synchronization -- but you have to pass it by value, not by reference. Once you create aliases to a unique_ptr, you lose the uniqueness property and all bets are off. Unfortunately C++ can't guarantee uniqueness, so you are left with a convention that you have to follow religiously. Don't create aliases to a unique_ptr!
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